As young people, we make various choices without the future in mind. Sometimes those choices pay us positively but most times, they bite us hard in our midlife and consequently lead us to a regrettable life when we become old. These are some of the things one might regret at old age.
1. Marrying the wrong person
Before ever going into marriage, no matter the pressure, you still need to sit down and check the motive behind the choice of partner you have decided to make. Don't just marry because your peers have married or for social standing or out of pressure. Among other personal plausible reasons, I urge you to marry for love and companionship. Remember that when you marry the wrong person or for the wrong reasons, you will have to put up with that person for the rest of your life. Once things get worse between the two of you, depression, physical abuse, extramarital affairs, pain, shame, court cases, bitterness and even divorce will follow and you already what the end will be. So make the right choice of partner now that you are young. Do not allow personal selfish reasons to destroy your marital tomorrow.
2. The opportunities you did not seize
If you check well, you will discover that there are so many life changing opportunities around you that you can take advantage of and advance your life financially. However, many young people let these opportunities go by because of fear of failure, laziness of heart, pride born out of educational qualification, fear of starting small and the fear of what people will say; yet these young people want to be wealthy. Now is the best time to take up an opportunity or start up a venture and make a name for yourself. If you don't take a bold step now that you are young, you might wish you did that when you become old. Remember that the glory of the youth is their strength. Use yours wisely.
3. The bridges you burned
As young people, we care little about relationships. What most of us think about now is getting money and moving up the ladder of success at all cost. Many use and dumb friends while others trample on people to progress; yet, others take relationships for granted, messing up bonds, sleeping with people for personal gain. All these bad actions will catch up with you in due time, especially when your "dark hours" come. When you will realize how empty life is without love and friends. When you would have succeeded but have no one around to celebrate you or even to trust you.
4. The baby you aborted
As young people, when we make mistakes, we feel bad. But what is even more painful is when we complicate and compound those mistakes. It is bad to engage in sexual immorality as young people but what is even more worst than the carnal engagement is getting pregnant and going ahead to abort it. At the moment of taking the abortion pills, all you think about is how to deal with the perceived shame. But when you are much older, you will look back and wish you kept that baby. Yes, when you eventually become rich and successful, you will wish that baby you gave up on the altar of pleasure was around to enjoy the fruits of your hard work. Being a single mother doesn't mean you can't make it in life or you can't find a man in future. Think about this deeply.
5. The child you rejected
As a young man, you may think that you are smart when it comes to hit and run with ladies. You jump from one lady to another using and dumping them at will. In the process of time, you got one pregnant and she told you she is pregnant with your child. You rejected her and the baby and ran away. But know this, in years to come, when you are 50 something years, you will wish you were responsible for your actions when you were younger. Yes, you will wish you manned up and became a father to that child. You will see that child excel and become an adult but you will have no claim to that grown up child who you rejected from the beginning. You will regret being a Dead Beat Dad by choice.
6. The marriage you destroyed
Most young people today do not think before they act. How did you come to this point where you only take pleasure with married men and women? Some of you have ended up scattering peaceful marriages because you couldn't control your sexual appetite. Even though you know that that man or woman is married, yet, you indulged them without thinking about the aftermath of the action on their already built families. You continued until you succeeded in breaking their marriages in spite of all the warning from your conscience and good friends around you. You may not feel the pain now, but surely you will feel it when you become old and that time you will no longer be able to make it up again. Avoid that future regret now that you have time.
7. The God you disowned
It is said that "the older the wiser". When you become old, God becomes more real to you. But don't wait to get older before you start enjoying a relationship with God. Know God when you are young, build your future with God. Don't be a young rebel who runs back to God when old age catches up with you.
8. The body you messed up
You have only one body to live with all your life. The cigarettes, the alcohol and hard drugs you are using to abuse yourself and the unhealthy feeding habit will destroy that beautiful body slowly. When you become old and start suffering from degenerating diseases, you will wish that you took care of your body when you were much younger. Take your time and look at those elders now who are suffering as a result of reckless lifestyles and evaluate your actions. I am sure you will learn some wisdom from observing them.
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